Following up on a post from a couple of weeks ago about a potential fifth sponsee …
After skipping out on our initial meeting at Vera’s I never saw or heard from him again. I’d actually forgotten about it. After all, people had asked me to sponsor them in the past and done nothing further. Unfortunately, it’s commonplace in the rooms for an addict to not follow through on their commitments.
I got a call on Sunday afternoon from a friend who told me that the would-be sponsee number five had been found dead in his bed at his sober house. He had overdosed. It was unknown whether or not the suicide was intentional or not.
I didn’t know him well and can’t tell you what his demons were, or even, for that matter, what his drug(s) of choice were. All I know is that he was an addict trying to stay clean.
He could have gotten another sponsor over the last couple of weeks and began working the steps; I’m not sure if he did or not. I don’t know that I could have helped him, or for that matter, whether the 12 steps could have helped him.
Jails, institutions or death. That’s what NA tells us are our options if we do not recover. Goodbye, would-be sponsee number five. May the afterlife bring you what you were unable to find here.