… and I am Somebody male. in my thirties. recovering alcoholic. live in minneapolis. work in progress. gay. serenity please.

A frick’n day off

08.05.2005 · Posted in Autobiographical, Recovery

As unserene as the headline might suggest I’m feeling at the moment, I’m actually quite happy! It’s Friday and I am enjoying the beginning of a three day weekend here at, you guessed it – Spyhouse. Just finished my attempt at the crossword puzzles and reluctantly forced myself to put them down after unsuccessfully attempting to solve the NYT grid today. Damn – I must need more culture, history, reading, or something … I can’t be that dumb, can I? Okay, I’ll stop there. Don’t answer that.

It’s a beautiful 65 at the moment, with a high in the low 80s. I slept with the windows open last night, and there’s no rain in sight for days! I love it when you can leave the doors open and walk freely between inside and out. It doesn’t seem often that you can do that – either raining, or so humid you feel like you’re walking through a thick cream of mushroom something-or-other.

Work has been both good and bad as of late. Why, oh why am I writing about work on my day off? Well, I can’t stop thinking about it, I suppose. We’ve had some senior folks leave the agency, which leaves us somewhat directionless, unmotivated, leery and nervous of the future – you know, shit that everyone deals with in everyday life is now entering my work life! Something that’s supposed to be structured and consistent, right? I should know better. The only constant is change, right?

Well, I’m trying to make the best of it. It forces you to pick up some of the slack and make up for the holes in personel. I’m sure it will all turn out okay. Now I’ll just have new people to impress.

I’ve got my first sponsee in AA. It’s really quite an honor to be asked. I will have 18 months sober on Tuesday, and my sponsor has been bugging me to get a sponsee for months now. Of course he was hoping I was going to end up with somebody very challenging, but I think this guy’s going to make it. He’s determined, seems willing, and so far, has been honest as far as I can tell. Cross your fingers he stays sober or I’ll never hear the end of it from the Legion of Decency.

I’m off to enjoy the rest of the day. Hope you’re not all at work 😉

6 Responses to “A frick’n day off”

  1. ENJOY your day off…some of us are stuck at work reading blogs! FYi: my meme reponse is done! Have a good weekend. My “congrats” on 18 months–an admirable accomplishment, Dan.

  2. Dan, isn’t there something about crossword puzzles getting harder as the week goes on? As in, they give you the easier ones at the beginning and they get progressively nastier as the week goes on? So if that’s the case, you probably did an admirable job workin’ the crossword puzzle. And I hear, legendarily, that the NYT puzzles are both the most challenging and most rewarding (because they’re the hardest).

    Eighteen months is a big deal. Seriously. Rock on and enjoy this perfect Friday.

    You deserve it. 🙂

    Josh H.

  3. I’m a crossword freak, so I have to give my opinion.

    The thing about doing crosswords is that it takes some practice to get good at doing them. After you’ve been doing crosswords for a few months, they get easier (there are, after all, only so many four and five letter words out there). Even so, you can expect to have to use some outside reference material to solve a really good puzzle.

    Josh is right that the NYTimes crosswords do get harder as the week goes on–Monday’s the easiest, and Sunday’s like climbing Everest. And yes, the NYTimes’ puzzles are more difficult that most (although I would say The Boston Globe has the most difficult Sunday puzzles). You may want to start with a few Associated Press puzzles. Think of it like training for a marathon–start small, work your way up.

  4. congrats on your 18mo. sober! enjoy your day off as well. (im at work) 🙁

  5. Dan, congrats on the 18 months. Great!!
    A sponsee does not need to be a challenge for you. More of an inspiration, I’d say. You can’t keep him/her sober and you can’t make them get the program. All you can do is offer you experience, strength and hope. Help them with the steps. In the midst of doing these things, you will most likely remain sober yourself. By giving all you have, you will receive many times more in the exchange.

  6. yeah days off!!! i have been enjoying taking the MONTH of august off and highly recommend to any sucker witha real job-ha!

    glad to hear things are going well and can’t wait to catch up with you when i move back mid to late august….