… and I am Somebody male. in my thirties. recovering alcoholic. live in minneapolis. work in progress. gay. serenity please.

About me

01.22.2005 · Posted in Autobiographical

My name is Dan.

I am a 26 year old single gay guy. I live in Minneapolis, MN. I grew up in the ‘burbs here, and have lived here nearly all of my life. The only exception being the six months I spent in LA when I was what I called “semi-retired,” or sometimes “on vacation,” or other times, “looking for work.”

I checked myself into an alcohol and drug treatment center in Feb of 2004. Since then I have been an active member of AA and have been sober since. I’m grateful for my sobriety every day.

I’ve worked in advertising for over 5 years now. It’s generally a fulfilling life, but I am still hoping to actually be ‘semi-retired’ by the time I’m 30. My life used to be defined by my work/job/career, but these days I’ve discovered other things that mean just as much to me, if not more.

I’ve been single for quite some time, and while I’m not actively seeking out a partner in life, I wouldn’t be opposed if one came along. I’d rather spend my life with someone as opposed to without.

My parents are still married after 28 years of marriage. I have 5 sibblings, 6 neices and nephews, and a rather large extended family – most of whom are in Minnesota.

I very much value the friendships I’ve maintained over the years. I find it utterly amazing that other people can bring so much joy to someone’s life and am grateful that I’ve been fortunate enough to have had a lot of joy brought to me. That didn’t really make sense, but hopefully you got the gist of it.

I fill the virtual pages within this site for a few reasons. I began writing after my sponsor in AA suggested I begin journaling as a part of my recovery. Of course I wanted to do it ‘my way,’ so I put it online.

These days I write in an attempt to continue sharing my life with friends and perhaps find new friends. I write because it allows me to think things through. I write because I want to share my life with those who might be interested.

At times my posts will contain nothing but nonsense. Other times they’ll include memories. Sometimes I’ll be ranting. And sometimes I’ll write about something I’ve just learned, or, if you’re lucky, I’ll share my daily epiphany.

And, I write for myself. I don’t know how long I will continue blogging, but years from now I want to be able to look back at this site and read about what I was going through at different points in my life. I want to be able to recall the good times. I want to see how much I’ve (hopefully) grown.

Thanks for visiting. Feel free to stick around.

Dan

33 Responses to “About me”

  1. Eric Pachicano says:

    Hey you seem like a great guy hope to chat or something sometime. Have a wonderful day:-)
    -ERIC

  2. Greetings from a guy freezing his butt off in Pennsylvania. How do y’all stand the snow and cold up North? 🙂

  3. I like your site….. very down to earth. Your pictures of Pride are excellent! Well done. I don’t read blogs much, but you have a talent for writing. Think I’ll check in on it a few times if you don’t mind. Keep up the good work & congrats on your year and a half of sobriety!

    G.

  4. Patrick says:

    Hey, I was reading your blog randomly and I noticed that you wrote about Blog-o-logue. Small world. I am in that show this summer at the fringe festival. You should definetly come and see it. Anyway, I enjoyed reading your blogs and would like to maybe chat with you sometime. I’m 23 single and live in uptown. Pictures available upon request. Hope to hear from you soon.

    Patrick tiggerkoz@yahoo.com

  5. Your website is very well-done.

  6. u r sweet – what was the “reason” that made you quit drinking?

  7. Just found your blog through queerfilter.com – It’s NICE to see other gay alcoholics who aren’t afraid to talk about it – it’s on the list of things “I’ve been meaning to do…”. I think your example might just help me muster up the courage to come out :o)

    p.s. clean and sober since september 17, 1999!

  8. You are very nice looking. Glad to hear that you are sober. I am an old guy, but thought I would say hi anyway.

    Your title picture is one of your best pictures, too bad there is not a larger version. Maybe in a past post.

  9. congratulatation’s it must be verry difficult to give up something that so many people look forward to doing at the end of the day and week . . . drinking and whatnot!! i never had that problem but know at least a few people that do and its sad to listen to the stories about their adventuers driving drunk and all this is my first visit to your blog but i like it already and certanily continue to check back !!! lol joe P.S i also think your verry nice looking no b.s !

  10. Hey… Great blog. I hope you enjoy living in downtown Minneapolis as much as I did. All the best, Dave

  11. Dan-

    Came across your site doing a random search one day. It was nice reading about you, and you seem like a very interesting person. Keep working toward your goals. Take care.

  12. Okay … that’s really wierd that there’s another comment with EXACTLY the same text I just used. Anyway … read your comment about Barbara Bush. I have the pleasure of knowing Barbara, and I think she just misspoke. I know that she didn’t mean what she said in the way a lot of people are interpreting it.

  13. Somebody told me says:

    I think your hot, does that mean anything .um ..no. But just thought I would express my feelings, and look I didn’t steal anything but 7 seconds of your time.

  14. Hey I’ve been reading your site and really like it. Kind of the opposite happened to me. I was living in Minneapolis and was an alcoholic, then moved to LA and got a fantastic career that’s helping me do lots of traveling and buying a house and staying clean most of the time.

    Your pictures of Minneapolis really touched me, because it’s been about 10 years since I’ve been there.

    Anyway, take care.

  15. I sincerely hope your blog is helping you with your alcoholism. I’m sorry that it took such a terrible disease for you to realize that you are somebody.

  16. I just googled “first sponsee” and your site popped up. I am 27 years old coming up on five years of sobriety in AA. I live in the DC area.
    BYW – Your site rocks! IKEA and West Elm have furnished my entire apartment. I work in the graphics field. I just wanted to show some love for my fellow drunk.

    Take Care,
    Courtney

  17. Dan,
    Your blog has sent me to your soberity Guru (Jim)and to Dallas (Steve) from other guys that you have met in Round ups. I live currently in Miami and I have gone to the Florida Round up for 10 yeas. It rocks. If you and Jim can make it come down; I am sure it will be a great break from the winter up there.
    I like the idea that you and your other soberity “sistas” have done for journaling with the blogs.
    Keep up the good work! Soberity Works!!
    Jim M from Miami

  18. I am posting a comment in this old posting because I am right now ripping through your blog. I just love doing this if I am aroused by a blog 🙂 I am fed up of all the marketing blogs that are around and it is a refreshing change to read your blog. Keep up the good work.

  19. Anonymous says:

    Hi Dan,
    I scanned your blog. You’re very articulate and quite attractive. The house you recently bought is amazing. I wish you the best with it.

    ….Del

  20. I saw your blog today for the first time. You do a good job of expressing yourself. I am a fan of the Hiawatha Line, so I enjoyed the pictures. It’s a toy compared to BART or rail transit in larger cities, but to those of us in Mpls and nearby it’s a good addition to the area.
    Your blog topics cover a variety of topics, which is good.

  21. I dont know how i found your site, but i enjoy it and hopfully you can drop me a line sometime! Later.

  22. Heya!

    Gay alcoholic in Ottawa, Canada. Congratulations!

    One day at a time.

    Lawrence

  23. I don’t remember where i found your site too but i came here because i found you were cute.it’s a shame your gay, maybe bi??lol

    A french fan

  24. Hello, fellow friend of Bill W… I came across your page after doing a google search on tile work in Minnesota… how ironic is it that I find a cool chap in recovery. It is almost a year that I checked my hide in the doors of the House of Hope on Monday nights and I have been working a program since. It’s so much better on this side of the fence.

    I have enjoyed your page – thanks for sharing… too bad your gay becuase you’re damn good looking. I guess that is the way it goes. Perhaps we’ll meet sometime… I’ll keep my eye out for you in the community. Check out my page on myspace.com/burnsniki.

    Sober is so Hot,
    niki.

  25. Nice blog you Gotcha here

  26. I think I might have a drinking problem. Weekend comes and the first thought is drinking. And it’s making me tired. But I can’t stop. Reading your story makes me think I can quit…but I can’t. That would be to easy, I’m sure you understand. So how do I

  27. what a beautiful smile! how can you smile at any man like that and still be single? some things just don’t make much sense. 🙂

  28. Dan, came across the site on a search and stopped to read it after seeing your picture. The other pics are great, and reading your story was awesome. I hope you continue to have joy in your life, and maybe someday we can chat. I’m from the midwest as well. Take care and good luck

  29. Good Evening, Congrats on your sobriety. I am also a recovering alcoholic, having been clean and sober since an eye opening car accident March 3rd, 2005. You have some terrific pictures and wonderful words! Best of luck with life. Make it a great day. ~Matthew

  30. I’m sure you get tons of emails like this… but, how did you do it? I’m a regular skulker about your blog… and I’m trying to quit drinking, but it never really sticks. Any advice and/or guidance is appreciated.

  31. You are truly an inspiration – keep it up. – A.

  32. I liked your blog very much though I enjoyed your story more. I would like to “chat” with you one of these days. My e-mail: poragora@gmail.com
    Hope to hear from you.
    M

  33. very entertaining but do add more entries like how you did 2 years ago mate!